TABLE OF CONTENTS
. HAPPINESS QUEEN
. VIRTUE IN DIET – TONOCITY
. VIRTUE IN BOLD COURAGE – INTEGRITY
. VIRTUE IN INTENTION – PURPOSE
. SEEKING TO BE A HAPPINESS QUEEN
Proverb 3:13-18 of the Holy Bible say –
13 Happy is the man that finds wisdom and the man that gets understanding
14 For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver, and the gain thereof than fine gold
15 She is more precious than rubies; and all the things thou can desire are not to be compared unto her
16 Length of days is in the right hand and in her left hand – riches and honour
17 Her ways are ways of pleasantness and all her paths are peace
18 She is a tree of life to them that lay hold upon her; and happy is every one that retains her.
Philosophers told us that flexibility, authentic stories and testimonies from friends make people happy. The example of flexibility is seen in the holy Bible as well.
1 Chronicle 4:9-10 say –
9 And Jabez was more honourable than his brethren; and his mother called his name Jabez, saying – Because I bare him with sorrow;
10 And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying – Oh that thou would bless me indeed and enlarge my coast, and that thine hand might be with me, and that thou would keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me; And God granted him that which he requested.
In the above passage Jabez’s mother named him SORROW. The scientists that did research on names discovered that surnames affect personality. If yours begin with one of the first letters of the alphabets, you’re likely to be happier and more confident than if it begins with one of the last letters. This is in line with Philosophers’ belief of flexibility. Changing ugly names like Thunder, Wood, Sorrow can work out your happiness and eradicate unhappiness. We make ourselves feel better by changing the way we think. True happiness lies inside us, if only we knew how to access it and cultivate it. Some people argue that in order to be happy, you need external things like friends, nice cars, well-paid jobs and so on. Money does not buy happiness (Psalm 17:13-15)
However, you should not be hard on yourself. If you’re hard on yourself, it means you recognize the need to grow, for growing itself is a generator of happiness. The Bible says – Happy is the man that fears always. But he that hardens his heart shall fall into mischief (PROVERB 28:14). People need to seek happiness because they have a journey to make in life. They should sit down to make themselves interesting, motivating and inspiring always. Mama Deborah was 100 years old when she died. Her siblings and most people around her called her the envious name – HAPPINESS QUEEN. Most times in her life time she was always HAPPY. She did not only believe in her happiness here, she looked forward to Eternal BLISS in heaven.
Proverb 29:18 says
18 Where there is no vision, the people perish:
But he that keeps the law, happy is he
Deborah used herself as a model. At 100, she trained herself not to let death come unexpectedly. Her ardent desire was happiness now till eternity. She looked over her shoulder at every tire squeal to note every slippery patch, every dangling wire, every scent of gas, every sign of infection. She knew that good health, good dispositions are excellent for everlasting happiness here and yonder. She was a woman of great faith. Her common Bible verse was –
22 Hast thou faith? Have it to yourself before God
Happy is he that condemns not himself
In that thing which he allows
Deborah’s Bible was her best friend. Fortunately, she could read it. large print Bible was always with her, and she took all her inspiration’s from inside it.
1 Peter 3:14 says
14 But and if you suffer for righteousness sake, happy are you; and be not afraid of that terror neither be troubled
15 But sanctify the Lord God in your heart;
And be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear.
Deborah preached ENDURANCE, quoting James 5: 11 which says –
11 Behold, we count them happy which endure
You have heard of the patience of Job and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy.
Our Creator is Omni-scient, He knows everything. He created everything to make us happy
. All men should acknowledge His Sovereignty. He knew us even before we were born –
The Lord says to Jeremiah in Jeremiah 1 :5 –
5 Before, I formed thee in the belly, I knew thee, and before thou came forth out of the womb, I sanctified thee and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.
Calling Deborah, a happiness queen is a big honour and privilege. If you desire it, work for it. It is your birth-right. God desires to have all His children back to the old garden of Eden to enjoy the bliss of heaven, the reason why He sent His only son to redeem us. The Almighty wants us to be industrious, prosperous, successful, and happy but the best use of all earthly wealth is to populate heaven. Deborah did her best to obey the truth here on earth. She believed that absolute happiness is our birth-right if well accessed and cultivated it to merit eternal bliss in heaven. At her bedside, just before her final sleep, she looked around eagerly for her transition. For her, it was HOME CALLING. She was sure to be in her HEAVENLY Father’s bosom very soon. As if smiling with her skeletal mouth, she passed away smoothly to enjoy Eternal bliss.
1 kings10:8 – says
8 Happy are thy men, happy are these thy servants, which stand continuously before thee, and that hear thy wisdom.
The following section lists the attributes expected of a happy queen. The authors referred to Diet – Tonicity, Bold Courage –Integrity, and Intention – Purpose. Enjoy as you read.
DIET – TONICITY STATUS
Scientists suggest the status of diet and tonicity – Showing that nutrients, jokes and laughter are medicines for happiness.
. DIET – By the proper intake of vitamins and other nutrients, the fraction of one’s life during which one is happy becomes greater. They defined happiness in terms of hormones – The chemical messengers in the body that tell other chemicals what to do. One of the most important hormones for happiness is Serotonin. Without enough Serotonin, we feel anxious and aggressive. With the optimum Serotonin, we feel calm, and contented. These hormones come from food – meaning that – we eat happiness.
Hormones including happiness hormones come from amino-acids, made by the body and from food if deficient. These amino-acids are – Tryptophan, Isoleucine, Leucine, Lysin, Methionine, Phenylalanine, threonine and Valine. The key chemicals connected with food are –
DOPAMINE – The neuro-transmitter that makes you seek pleasure and enjoy life. It produces enthusiasm, exuberance and joy. When you have a pleasurable experience, dopamine reinforces it and makes you want it again. Dopamine is synthesized from tyrosine, an amino-acid particularly found in wheat-germ and milk.
ENDOPHINS – creates euphoria like morphine
NORADRENALINE – elevates mood
OXYTOCIN – promotes touching and affectionate behaviour which tends to make people happy.
PEA (phenylethylamine) found in Chocolate produces that – Walking on air feeling
SEROTONIN – a neurotransmitter makes you feel peaceful, unaggressive and contented.
TESTOSTERON – is considered to be a male hormone but also present in women at lower levels. It increases sex drive. Eating meat increases testosterone.
Thus, poor diet is a common cause of illness and sadness. Grandma Deborah admonished younger generations to take healthy food for happiness. In her days, she probably lived on STONE AGE DIET like fruits, vegetables, nuts and lean meat – No processed foods. Her foods were direct from nature – No pollution. A healthy diet is a happy diet. The Holy Bible says –
34 wherefore I pray you to take some meat: for this is – for your health, for there shall not a hair fall from the head of any of you.
8 Then shall thy light break as the morning and thy health shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before thee: the glory of the LORD shall be thy reward
. TONICITY is the normal firmness or functional readiness in body tissues or organ, like Dancing, Joking, Laughing and even Exercising the body. Exercises tune muscles and bones, while jokes, laughter tune the minds spiritually.
EXERCISE – When you exercise, you get happy – fit and generate happy chemicals. Exercise improves mood. It increases the body core temperature and relaxes muscles to induce a feeling of tranquility. The key ingredients in exercise is just to generate happy chemicals. It is advise-able to stick with one type of exercise. This helps, particularly if the body is familiar with it already. Doing it regularly, 30 minutes a day, five days in a week may probably be sufficient. Jogging is a lot of fun. The steady rhythmical movement seems to generate more happy chemicals per minute than many other activities. Dancing sounds like fun. It is a good exercise. It has all the benefits of jogging. My experience in the adult recreation center convinced me that dancing is both fun and exercise.
JOKES and LAUGHTER tune the body and soul of participants. Scientists educated us with the sciences of JOKES and LAUGHTER as seen below –
. THE SCIENCE OF JOKES
. An electrical wave moves through the cerebral cortex (the largest part of the brain) within less than half a second of seeing or hearing something potentially funny.
. The left side of the cortex analyses the joke or situation
. Activity increases in the frontal lobe
. The occipital lobe processes any visual signals
. The right hemisphere of the cortex is where you get the joke
. The most primitive part of the brain – the limbic system (especially amygdala and hippocampus) is involved in the emotional response.
. The hypothalamus is involved in the production of loud, uncontrollable laughter.
THE SCIENCE OF LAUGHTER
Scientists proved that laughter is a medicine because it
. increases the disease fighting protein – Gamma- interferon
. increases T-cells and B-cells which make disease fighting antibodies
. increases immunoglobulin A, the body’s first line of defence against infections of the upper respiratory tract.
. increases immunoglobulins M and G
. increases complement 3, which helps antibodies pierce defective or infected cells in order to destroy them
. Laughter benefits anyone suffering from diabetes because it lowers blood sugar
. It benefits the heart
. It lowers blood pressure
. It lowers stress hormones including Cortisol
. It strengthens abdominal muscle
. It relaxes the body
. It reduces pain, possibly by the production of endorphins, but certainly through relaxation and distraction.
. It flushes water vapour from the lungs
. It speeds recovery from surgery especially children
Last but not the least, it stops anyone thinking you’re dull.
Even animals enjoy a good laugh. Some scientists found Chimpanzees and gorillas laughing – A mixture of inhalations and exhalations. Dogs also have a kind of panting laugh. Rats chirp and ponies play practical jokes on one another.
Jokes create genuinely funny situations. Like laughter, jokes make most people happy and stress-free. They tune the minds spiritually. Mama Deborah was full of jokes and laughter. Possibly, one of the reasons why she was called happiness queen. You too can make yourself happy. At the same time, be compassionate and friendly. Practise jokes on your friends, be playful, say nothing cruel or dangerous. Make a good laugh, do something funny everyday, listen to some cheerful energizing music to make you dance occasionally. Remember THE DOS and DON’TS – love God and your neighbour. Do unto others as you want them to do to you. So, doing, you create a light heart to merit Happy Queen status.
1 Kings 10:8
8 Happy are thy men, happy are these thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and that hear thy wisdom
15 Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, happy is that people, whose God is the LORD.
BOLD COURAGE – INTEGRITY
To live a life of meaning and engagement like a happy queen, you need to come alive, feel connected to life force and harness the energy of ascendance. These activate your aspirational self, spark creativity and resilience. They help you transcend the mire of negative thoughts, circumstances and align with a powerful ally that unites you in your desire to live the life of meaning and engagement necessary for happiness. Emotions and experiences are potentials like – Well spring positive energy, creativity, confidence and the desire to rejoice with others.
Bold courage moves you beyond compulsivity, exhaustion, demoralization and victimhood, towards a life of self-control, vitality, optimism, resilience and integrity. All these generate happiness, while negative emotions are assassins. A scientist found a link between emotions, illness and sadness. He gave rats saccharin-flavoured water along with a chemical that suppressed T-cells. Later, he gave just the saccharin-flavoured water. This time, the rats’ T-cells’ count still went down. The significance of the experiment was the connection between the brain (which tasted the water) and the immune system.
Scientifically, stress hormones suppress immune system, but this may get permanently compromised.
Deuteronomy 33:29 says –
29 Happy art thou, O Israel; who is like unto thee, O people saved by the LORD, the shield of thy help
And who is the sword of thy excellency; and thine enemies shall be found liars unto thee, and thou shalt tread upon their high places.
Happiness is a blessing, and bold courage is a motivator. It is about shifting your perspective, discovering your possibilities, making decisions to take risks and play a bigger game. If you want happiness, do what you think to be right, not just easy. Bold courage is committing to action despite your fear. It’s about becoming more disciplined in your approach to living and working with an engaged, renewed sense of excitement, accomplishment and joy. The pursuit of greatness, or the act of accomplishing great things is the dream of many. With a healthy dose of bold courage and integrity, you avoid future regrets. Bold courage is a call to change for the better. Everyone can benefit from its principle. Use what you innately have in your attitude; skills, abilities, passion, hobbies and talents. Pair them with opportunities to allow the authentic you to shine through. Then you create that scenario for a fulfillment and satisfied life. God wants all His children to be industrious, wealthy and happy through His grace. He wants the best for everybody.
My friend, Veronica, graduated in a profession that disappointed her – A reputable profession most people loved to practise. Some people saw her as an inspiration, admired her and held her in high regard. They aspired to be like her -a brilliant scientist. Unfortunately, she didn’t hold it high like them. She had a very bad experience in her university days, because she and three of her team – members got lost in the bush when looking for specimens. They were in the bush for two days before they could trace their way home. This horrible experience quenched her previous love for the profession. She now preferred a white-color job to stay in the office. She grudgingly stayed on the job for just a year to pay for her sponsorship. And soon after, she stopped the fear sabotaging herself to fulfill her dream. She articulated what her ideal life style looked like, what it felt like and how happy she would be to actually live it. Amazingly, after defining her awesome self, the directors of the big company honoured her desire because of her good reputation. She did her best within the short time she stayed there despite the original disappointment. The directors worked out ways to keep her in the company. Her courageous boldness earned her a higher position. She was instantly promoted to the rank of supervisor whose duty was mainly in the office. Thus, her integrity fueled her boldness to achieve her desired happiness.
Experts say – For satisfaction at work, challenge mediocrity, recognize the power of your story, accept being perfectly flawed, understand the gift of giving and receiving. Bold courage and integrity earned Veronica happiness. There was power in her voice. At-times, courage may lay dormant. While that is true, think of bold courage through the eyes of faith like the mustard seed in the Holy Bible. No matter how big or small, faith is, it is the only shelter we have to depend on for happiness. Veronica believed in herself, and her Creator. At-last her happiness was guaranteed. There’s something indescribably beautiful about living life in integrity. It is an incredibly fulfilling and meaningful way to live. This was the legacy Mama Deborah and Veronica left their siblings. The Holy Bible says –
6 Be strong and of a good courage, fear not nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee, he will not fail thee nor forsake thee
2 By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.
7 The just man walketh in his integrity; his children are blessed after him
These passages tell us that, to merit the crown of happiness queen, you need to be strong and of good courage. Have the faith that the Lord is with you. Walk in integrity, rejoice in the hope of His glory. Through His grace, you and your children will be blessed with happiness here and everlasting bliss thereafter.